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We have undergone massive life shifts from single-hood to married life, pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding; enduring radical changes to our bodies and minds.We are connected, interwoven with the lives of our children.When my ex walked out, my daughter wasn’t even two yet.I remember saying to my mom that I didn’t know anyone else who was divorced, single parenting and dating.To do both successfully requires a balancing act - one that is made easier to juggle when you can connect with others who have similar relationships and lifestyles.After all, your time is precious and, if you are going to balance work and family demands with dating, you want the people you meet to be worth it.We sat down with noted parenting consultant and e Harmony Parenting contributor Dr.Tina Payne Bryson to discuss strategies to help single parents successfully navigate getting back into the dating world.
Problems begin when there is a change in you and your routine and nothing’s said.They’re quickly discovering what I did—dating with kids in tow is a whole different scenario.One of the biggest issues we face from the get-go is: What do we say to our kids? I asked Toronto psychotherapist Jana Brankov for some surefire tips. Talk to them Trying to hide the fact that you’re dating won’t work. “You need to be authentic because kids sniff us out. Keep it simple Brankov says one of the biggest mistakes dating parents make is telling their kids too much.When you’re first dating all you need to say is that you’re going out with a friend. If you’re getting to the point when it’s time for your kids to meet this new partner, create a scene for success. Say that you’d like them to meet this special friend (they should know the person’s name by now).They don’t even have to know his or her name at this stage. Reassure them “All kids want to know is that they’re still the most important people in your life no matter what. You can acknowledge their question, assess whether or not it’s one you should answer and just simply tell them that you aren’t going to answer that right now. Then listen, acknowledge and validate—no matter what their reaction is.